Understanding, Acceptance, and Love

"Love begins at home, and it is not how much we do... but how much love we put in that action." -Mother Teresa-

When you love someone, their happiness is essential to your own. You don't love someone because they're perfect. In fact, they're not. Does it matter? Does it change your love? I think love doesn't work like that. Love is not a machine that you can buy or create whatever you want. You can fix and change it anytime you want. Another funny parable : have you ever played the sims? If you know that game, you'll understand what I mean. You can build their personality traits as you like and you can match it with their partners. So easy, right? But love doesn't work that way.

Love is not just about finding the right person. Understanding and acceptance are the essence of love. When you love someone, you love them as themself. You don't force them to be someone that fulfill your ideal. You don't push them to be like your "imaginary" partner. I believe that each of us has our own criteria in choosing partner, but it's not the right way to always think : "He/she is too far from my expectation, he/she is not good enough for me, I deserve better!" Go back to yourself, is that what you want? Is that what you do to find the right person? Have you already given the best effort that you can?

"No relationship is perfect, ever. There are always some ways you have to bend, to compromise, to give something up in order to gain something greater... The love we have for each other is bigger than these small differences. And that's the key. It's like a big pie chart, and the love in a relationship has to be the biggest piece. Love can make up for a lot." -Sarah Dessen-

What I say is based on my experiences. Love is so important in relationship, but understanding and acceptance are the key to build a success relationship. When you're ready to commit, you'll ready to love wholeheartedly, build your relationship for the future, and remember you'll also ready to get hurted and the worst case is you're ready to lose your love.

"Understanding is the first step to acceptance, and only with acceptance can there be recovery." -J.K. Rowling-